JESSAY FOLARIN CONTEMPORARY NIGERIAN RAPPER AND FASHIONISTER
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SIR DONALD THRUMP 45th PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATE
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To be successful, you have to use each day as an opportunity to improve, to be better, to get a little bit closer to your goals. It might sound like a lot of work—and with a busy schedule, next to impossible. But the best part is, the more you accomplish, the more you’ll want to do, the higher you’ll want to reach. So as long as you have the hunger for success, you will always have the power within you to achieve it. Use your ambition, drive and desire
“You know, my motto is ‘Excelsior.’ That’s an old word that means ‘upward and onward to greater glory.’… Keep moving forward, and if it’s time to go, it’s time. Nothing lasts forever.” – Stan Lee #Excelsior#StanLeeForever @RICHdimkpa
“One difference between poetry and lyrics is that lyrics sort of fade into the background. They fade on the page and live on the stage when set to music.” ― Stephen Sondheim
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Born Jesse Chibikem Folarin Winston to an engineer father (who is also a Preacher) and a Mother who has Education chiseled into her core.
Jessay is a New school Afro Urban Independent Artist who resides in Nigeria but has an inclination to sending good vibes word-wide, with his version of “good music” .
Though he may tend to fuse Raggae, Highlife and Pop into his sound, there is no doubt his cores are Hip Hop mixed up with some Afrocentric melody
With a strong penchant for good music, Jessay Started writing his own lyrics in 2005 during summer classes in junior secondary school.
Although he started with RnB, the love for Hip Hop Afro-Pop seemed to be more super seeding and the kid has gone on to master both crafts. Calling his main style ‘a perfect marriage between Hip Hop, RnB and Afro-Pop with concubines from other Genres’
The eccentric artist Norðir, who grew up in Siberia, is completely devoted to the contradictions of life has a great work of art out; NO HELL NO
In English, German and Russian, he reflects on paradoxical topics from different perspectives and encourages reflection.
So his trilingual music is a balancing act of irresistible pop sophistication and dreamy electronic-psychedelic landscapes.
He has already shared the stage with artists such as Get Well Soon, Kilez More, Zoot Woman and Sun Pilots solo and with his Band „Rigna Folk“, and with his projects he has been a prizewinner of the German Rock and Pop Award.
In the run-up to the release of his debut album „Trilingualism“, which was released on February 8, 2018, Norðir plays concerts in Germany and Switzerland and releases a range of singles.
Complete harmony can hardly be arrived at when we have constant internal turmoils stemming from grudges borne over something or even nothing special at all.
A whole lot of times grudges stem from expectations placed on someone/something and when it’s not met, we begin the resentful spout and store up that senseless carbon in our minds and hearts. Even when we say that we have forgiven the person/situation, we keep a long list of records of all the shortfalls.
We have got to limit all expectations that would end up making us breed endless stupidity inside of us.
If we minimized our expectations from others and valuables, almost nothing would be a hindering factor to our ultimate reach in life, that way we leave room for pleasant surprises and also save ourselves that feeling of being let down.
An instance is our personal relationships. A lot of relationships would surely fail because we go into it with a long list of dos, don’ts and infernal expectations that would surely lead to no fruition.
Man is not GOD, but fallible humans! and would always remain as that regardless what anyone tags to their name. THEY REMAIN NOTHING BUT FALLIABLE HUMANS. You Hear!
thus this should be virtually applied to everything that we do. Give yourself hope with every single forward step.
For instance; you and your nasty, creepy Boss in the office. Now you understand my point right?
Zero your mind down to the fact that he/she(your boss)has issues that they are dealing with on their own
…and they possibly don’t know how to be different but stick to their own status quo, which makes you a direct recipient of the heat in them.
Learn to give a big laugh inside of you when Mr Jones plays the obvious script, never get intimidated because only you know what to say for you!
Once your mind has accepted their contrary prickly nature, you go about your business as effectively as you can without letting the acid of annoyance and grudge implode inside of you.
Getting into differences with “certified shallow minds”, will only hurt you more, because the likelihood is that they may not understand, don’t care or are insensitive to your feelings.
Remember that you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself. Who knows, your balanced sense of self and disposition might actually serve as a source of inspiration for such people. Well, I someworth live in that reality.
She was a ray of sunshine, a warm summer rain, a bright fire on a cold winter’s day, and now she could be dead because she had tried to save the man she. ~Grace Willows
1. Stop hoping for zero completion of anything in life; everything changes at some point fam.
Stay happy in the current moment and balance work and fun. LIVE!!
2. Live as if your father were dead or never in good terms
Be free from your father’s expectations and criticisms. Don’t adjust to his panics; be a pillar of support at the same time.
3. Never change your mind just to please a woman. It’s called “temporary solution”
Never downgrade your knowledge or understanding/intuitions on a matter in order to please your woman.
4. Purposeful Life pursuit before A relationship.
Prioritize/ stay addicted to your purpose over a sexual relationship that would always keep you tamed. Remain Untamed and never in a leash if your purpose in life is more important
5. Lean just beyond your edge.
Get out of the comfort zone, Never be scared to grow but don’t push too much beyond the edge in every task you engage in. Do not neglect health; do not stretch it to the limit every single time.
6. If you don’t know your purpose discover it now. Talk to elders about what you love to do constantly; and work with ideas you get when in conversation with older and more experienced lot, so you are always closer to you purpose.
A ship without a destination in the sea will just drift wherever the waves take it.
7. Be willing to change everything in your life. From scratch to top!
Be prepared to give it 100% of your dedication and efforts to letting go of garbage for fresher air to come in. Don’t be afraid to change, accept it, learn to adapt to changes ‘cos at some point everything changes.
8. Don’t use your family as an excuse for failures, you never get a 100% from them anymore if you ever do that.
When you don’t achieve your goals as planned, do not blame your family in anyway. accept your flaws and failures and work towards perfecting your craft.
Failure is not a bad thing and not the end of chances given!
9. Don’t get lost in tasks and duties all the time. Apply patience with sprinkles of gratitude no matter how difficult and confusing your duties become
Meditate and take care of your mental/emotional health and fitness.
Balance is key to productivity!
10. Don’t force females to take decisions.
Ladies don’t like to move with a flow. They love to see their own intentions and opinions always in the mix of everything they lay hands on. Allow females make decisions but not on your behalf though.
It’s also stretches out to not also taking decisions when you are high on your feminine side.
You control and decisions with your full chest! That makes you that kind of man females won’t advice you to become but want to see you become.
11. What she wants is not what she says
(Shit-testing)
Women test you by asking you to do things, it’s a test of whether you do what she says or you do what is right. (Don’t break your rules)
Do what is right!
12. She doesn’t really want to be number 1, while your goals come second; even if she says it’s what she wants all the time.
She should not feel you are dependent on her or she is no.1 priority, while your goals stay dormant.
She should feel that her man is willing to sacrifice their relationship for the sake of his goals and a better ending.
Don’t become an underachiever because you enjoyed too much intimacy and a wet cunt.
13. She wants to relax in the demonstration of your ability to carry her along 100%
She must trust you to take charge when she relaxes her masculine edge on yours. Be 100 True when it come to proving your self worth; Financially, Emotionally, Sexually, Spiritually.
I used to have lofty goals. For one, I thought I did be a millionaire (in dollars) by the age of 30. I wanted to buy a home for my parents on a 10 arches property; for Dad and Mum who used to love spending serious money on rent and mortgages with no pressure whatsoever to enjoy the comfort of owing a home.
But mum has since moved far away from Dad and Dad don’t feel comfortable living in the same home with a woman that has become so obsessed with owning properties in Lagos;
But then fast forward to 2020; same year Momma retired! Same year Mom and I initiated growing a family organic farm house on an acre! Same year I had no other choice but to say my goodbyes to the conventional 9-5 prison. Same year I bought my first digital camera.
…and on the other hand Dad became a (big man) in an affiliation with a fast growing Pentecostal business outlet; they fxxking own schools fam; give free education and all. So I say dude be doing just fine by himself afterall
I am-nearing 40, so the before-30 goal’s mostly gone out of the window too yeah. Yeah of course,buying zee parent a home to ‘leave’ together in one place is a goal out the window and auto removed from the bucket list.
First lesson:
goals never stay the same, because life never stays the same. And society never eases on its pressure to man you and I conform. My sure/best bet would be to continually err on the side of action even if I know what I am doing or not before all opportunities pass me by yeah?
And Of course, being a writer with an unconventionally style. I have deliberately created my own writing analogy: Embrace the awkwardness in that embarrassing first draft before I lose the idea entirely.
I figure that’s a great place to start.
1. See Mate!! Everything changes
The best strike should be when the iron is hot. It’s often better to start and adjust rather than wait for all the lights to turn green before you apply intensity on the gas. I know this because I tend to favour thinking over action; a stupid behavior I have come to understand
The constant dive down rabbit holes; pondering useless questions; analyzing people opinions of how you perceive life, before taking the first step has become a societal norm most of us have embraced.
You have a goal in mind, its should not be that hard to take little steps and enjoy the process instead of painting pictures of a master-the-craft and putting so much pressure on yourself
it’s important to Just. Get. Started. Slow. Steady. Passionate. Consistent. Taking. Life. Not. Too. Serious. Embrace. Flaws. …and keep at it with good intentions.
Because more often than not, something will change, and your opportunity will fade.
You will lose interest. You would loose friends. You would lose momentum. Your friends will lose interest.
A pandemic will ravage the world again and imprison you at home.
And Then you would feel real silly for having bought the best-reviewed tools, but not getting to use them at will, while always spotting results in other’s achievements.
See! Everything changes so own your own terms and conditions and LIVE!
Take the chess game as an analogy.
Millions of possibilities exist on the chessboard, and it’s pointless to process them all before making your move. You will need to choose if you like it or not; then follow up with another move BUT only after your “opponent” has made their move. Because it’s silly to waste time on possibilities that might not even happen.
Basically, don’t overthink things and put yourself in a fix-at-work, even if it’s on another man’s expenses and fiscal power.
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2. REACHING YOUR OWN PERSONAL GOAL HAS BECOME VERY UNDERRATED.
The problem with the results-based mentality is that you are the exact same person before and after attaining cooperate goals. Sure, you may enjoy harvesting the fruits of your labour, but then what? What next? Huh?
For eight years, I did dreamed of being a traditionally-published author. And that goal felt so unattainable that I never even tried.
Then I did try abit and I saw my editorials in prints on a very unpopular magazine in Hawaii But reaching that milestone didn’t magically turn me into Chinua Achebe, Neil Gaiman and chimamanda Adichie .
In fact, I was probably worse off, because now I had to think about sales and marketing (or the lack of it) if I had to publish a book the traditional way.
My Second lesson from all this?
It was that the actual act of writing gave me confidence, not the accolade et nonsense attached to it. The more I wrote randomly, the more confident I was. And have become periodt!!
So every day, judge yourself not by the harvest you have reaped, but by the seeds you have sown on your own personal part; trails you have deliberately left
3. Time still passes
Just because the world isn’t ready for your awesomeness doesn’t mean you can’t get started. Because waiting for the right moment only wastes time. And someday you will realise that ten years have passed you by
without you having anything to show for it.
I love to owe books and become a best seller but then I am owning properties and it feels equally good and I still don’t feel out of place.
Maybe that’s why I picked up doing editorials and prompts. Because I will definitely turn sixty someday. And when I am past 60 I would have done the “I Am” at least I would have written columns for Forbes and FX tv previews, become a blackbelt holder, visited my favorite mountains, Seen the bluest seas et all. (with all his joints and ankles still intact, hopefully).
It’s the same with playing the piano or learning a new language. You could either whine about not starting during your formative years, or you could start at sixty and be a decent pianist by seventy.
Either way, life goes on, with or without your participation. So you best sow your seeds today.
Whatever you do, time be tick-toking away.
4. It’s better to fail than to not try at all
Cheesy. Cliche. Chutzpah. Commit. To. Community. (Sorry I had to start the summary to my convictions lately with a few favorite words).
You know how stupid you feel after telling everyone about your new blog, then dropping off after a month?
Or how you pursue a new sport, only to quietly quit because you’re worried about being judged for giving up?
Yeah, you are going to have to get over that.
Because if you try hard enough, you will inevitably come across more pursuits that don’t suit you than ones that do.
I mean, look at me. I have gone through three career changes, and that’s not including the mountain of odd jobs I did to stay afloat.
And I turned out okay, right? Right?
I would not lie though, it seems that I have only gotten much better at failing. And the only tangible achievements I have to show for my 30 something years of living are a couple blog posts and a catchy editorial. That’s it.
But I tried, and that’s what matters. So if death were to come for me today, I did at least have the answer to my TEN-year question of ‘can I actually write a non fiction novel?’.
And perhaps that’s what we should be striving for in life. Not just to achieve what we set out to do, but to fail, and subsequently become better versions of ourselves; for other spheres to FLORISH.
Because at the end of the day, everything changes. So we might as well change for the better.
Complete Rubbish or Common Sense; it all boils down to perceptions
Broken screens can still take good pictures!!
On a flight from Abuja to Lagos, I sat just a row behind a young couple.
They were with a little girl, not more than 2 years old, obviously their daughter.
I sat on an aisle seat, on the right side of the aircraft.
The father, carrying the little girl, also sat on an aisle seat, on the left side of the aircraft.
This positioning gave me a pretty good view of both the dad and daughter.
While waiting for take off, the “nursing” father whips out his phone and starts taking selfies with his daughter, like every doting dad would.
I’m sitting there, chilling, trying to mind my business (as an aspiring gentleman should).
However, I couldn’t help but notice that his phone screen was cracked, so the images looked unappealing and distorted on the screen (feel free to call me an Aproko, with your full chest).
I was put off by the distorted image and was about to look away, when my inner voice spoke to me.
It told me to look at the screen again, so I did, and then it whispered to me these words I will never forget, “Broken Screens Still Take Good Pictures…”
I froze, because immediately I realized that although their image was distorted on this broken phone screen, it was going to look normal when you view it on another phone with a good screen.
It doesn’t matter how badly you have fallen.
It doesn’t matter how much mud has been thrown on you by random people.
It doesn’t matter how badly people have spoken about you and soiled your name.
It doesn’t matter whatever people’s present perception of you may be.
That is THEIR view of you from THEIR own BROKEN mental screen.
You are still PERFECT in image, just as the Creator designed you to be!
Don’t allow their distorted views lead you into depression or self doubt.
Your true image is secure, inside the gallery of your heart.
It is still beautiful and it is still unique.
You don’t need to add any unnecessary filter, just to please anyone.
Those who are privileged to see you with a “clear” screen, will see the beauty in you.
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