“The most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering.”
― Ben Okri
In recent times I concluded that perfect harmony can hardly be arrived at when we have constant internal turmoils stemming from grudges borne over something or even nothing at all.
A whole lot of times grudges stem from expectations placed on someone/something and when it’s not met, we begin the resentful spout and store up that senseless carbon in our minds and hearts. Even when we say that we have forgiven the person/situation, we keep a long list of records of all the shortfalls.
We have got to limit all expectations that would end up making us breed endless stupidity inside of us.
If we minimized our expectations from others and valuables, almost nothing would be a hindering factor to our ultimate reach in life, that way we leave room for pleasant surprises and also save ourselves that feeling of being let down.
An instance is our personal relationships. A lot of relationships would surely fail because we go into it with a long list of dos, don’ts and infernal expectations that would surely lead to no fruition.
Man is not GOD, but fallible humans! and would always remain as that regardless what anyone tags to their name. THEY REMAIN NOTHING BUT FALLIABLE HUMANS. You Hear!
This virtually applies to everything that we do. For instance you might have a nasty boss. Zero your mind down to the fact that he/she has issues that they are dealing with and they possibly don’t know how to be different.
Once your mind has accepted their contrary prickly nature, you go about your business as effectively as you can without letting the acid of annoyance and grudge build up inside you. Getting into differences with such people will only hurt you more, because the likelihood is that they may not understand, don’t care or are insensitive to your feelings.
Remember that you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself. Who knows, your balanced sense of self and disposition might actually serve as a source of inspiration for a whole lot of people.